Voel je hoe dat voelt? Bevrijdend. Als is het maar één seconde.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2nFDmrLGgYM

Ik vind het filmpje trouwens meer tot de verbeelding sprekend met het geluid uitgeschakeld, kan ik het dichter bij me laten komen.

Lees ook: Kweek eerst wortels

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=psN1DORYYV0

Lees ook: De kracht van kwetsbaarheid

Een mooie week met Peter Diamandis en zijn Ted Talk ‘Abundance is our future‘.

Een mooie week met ‘De kunst van het verslagen voelen‘ van Carolien Geurtsen.

Dus voor iedereen die zich zorgen maakte omdat ik deze week over rouwen en leegte schreef: het was een mooie week.

Goed weekend allemaal.

Ook al weet je dat er niemand is, binnen een paar stappen slaat het toe: het reptielenbrein. Een haast onweerstaanbare aandrang om te kijken of er toch echt niks of niemand is waar je tegenaan kunt botsen. Want dat is typisch  reptielenbrein, de constante behoefte aan bewijs en bevestiging.

Ik ontdekte deze oefening tijdens het hardlopen in het bos. Op zich niks bijzonders om een stukje achteruit te lopen maar interessant om bewust waar te nemen dat het reptielenbrein ontwaakt en begint te schreeuwen: draai je om, kijk waar je loopt, doe niet zo gevaarlijk, er zou iets kunnen gebeuren.

En wat doe je dan: vertrouwen op je eerdere waarneming dat er echt niks of niemand op dat pad is of toegeven aan je reptielenbrein?

Helaas heb ik niet alle #malewishlist tweets terug kunnen vinden maar wel een groot aantal. Genoeg om een indruk te geven van wat mannen echt willen. Genoeg om af te rekenen met alle verwrongen en verdraaide stereotypen van wat een man is in onze disfunctionele cultuur.

Laat jezelf verrassen met de #malewishlist

English/Engels
This blogpost is a tribute to the #malewishlist, an initiative of Rick Belden and a touching collection of tweets about what men want.

Unfortunately I was nog able to find all #malewishlist tweets but I found a large number. Enough to give an impression of what men really want. Enough to deal with all warped and distorted stereotypes of what a man is in our dysfunctional culture.

Let yourself be surprised with the #malewishlist

RT @lelleys: To not be left out of business ‘rapport’ building because you do not play golf #feministwishlist -> Also on my #malewishlist! — Rick Belden (@rickbelden) November 5, 2011

RT @redfoxcountry: #malewishlist To not be pigeonholed as only interested in sex and beer. — Rick Belden (@rickbelden) November 5, 2011

RT @redfoxcountry: #malewishlist Not to be assigned the role of combat soldier in time of war because of their gender. — Rick Belden (@rickbelden) November 5, 2011

RT @redfoxcountry: @MsEmmaB #malewishlist For men to be allowed to cry, feel, and have hormones. — Rick Belden (@rickbelden) November 5, 2011

#malewishlist to be seen as a person not a potential abuser. Some one who is safe to be with. — Adam Evans (@adamoutdoor) November 5, 2011

#malewishlist to be accepted as a man because I am a man, not by the stereotype
— One Sixth Columbus (@1SixthColumbus) November 5, 2011

My #malewishlist is that more men would learn to talk openly about sex with their partners rather than resorting to lazy substitutes. — John Kennett (@johnkennett) November 5, 2011

#malewishlist to know our real strengths and not be afraid to use them. — Kurt Frost (@TheMensGroup) November 5, 2011

#malewishlistTo wake up in the morning and feel blessed for being born the way I am. — Seth Mullins (@SethMullins1) November 5, 2011

#malewishlist to be accepted for who I am rather than how well I fit into the cultural box — One Sixth Columbus (@1SixthColumbus) November 5, 2011

#malewishlist to connect more openly with other men and to allow their support into my life; to create more community with like-minded men. — Dr. Adam Sheck (@MenAfterFifty) November 5, 2011

#malewishlist To have open, honest, meaningful interactions with other men on a regular basis w/o having to pay for a weekly men’s group. — Rick Belden (@rickbelden) November 5, 2011

#MaleWishList To not feel like I’m a rapist every time a woman walks the same route as me after 9pm. — Andy King (@fauxstellata) November 5, 2011

#malewishlist Not to be characterized as “abnormally sensitive” by a woman simply because I’m aware of feelings (my own & those of others). — Rick Belden (@rickbelden) November 5, 2011

#malewishlist To be afraid and incapable and be comforted. — Dapper Dan(@redfoxcountry) November 5, 2011

@rickbelden I need to hear men speak from their deep inner self, I want to know you all better ? thanks for #malewishlist ?

— Krystyna Palka (@krysia22) November 6, 2011

#malewishlist – a movement of men that work together and support each other for the greater good — Glen Poole (@GlenMensNetwork) November 6, 2011

#malewishlist To feel free to be who I am in every moment without fear of being judged as “unmanly” whether by other men, women, or culture. — Rick Belden (@rickbelden) November 6, 2011

#malewishlist Being vulnerable, experiencing shame and having friends to to share about it without being judged or fixed. — Peter de Kock (@peterdekock) November 6, 2011

#malewishlist Loving myself enough to allow myself to fail and make mistakes
— Peter de Kock (@peterdekock) November 6, 2011

RT @WestCoastMenBC: #malewishlist That the pendulum swing to the middle – that men and women are treated equally in the emotional realm. — Rick Belden (@rickbelden) November 7, 2011

#malewishlist To be have trusted male friends I can talk with openly when I’m trying to work thru some problem or just having a tough day. — Rick Belden (@rickbelden) November 7, 2011

#malewishlist To make a living doing work that truly moves me. — Rick Belden (@rickbelden) November 7, 2011

#malewishlist To live in a world in which cooperating, collaborating, and caring are valued and rewarded as highly as competing and winning. — Rick Belden (@rickbelden) November 7, 2011

#malewishlist To feel that my sensitivity is an asset rather than a weakness to be feared and hidden from others. — Rick Belden (@rickbelden) November 7, 2011

#malewishlist To feel the same openness and acceptance from my gay community that I have from the straight guys I’ve done men’s work with. — David McInerney, MA (@DavidFMcInerney) November 7, 2011

#malewishlist To remember that failure & rejection do not reduce or diminish me as a man, but are pathways into my own strength & wisdom. — Rick Belden (@rickbelden) November 7, 2011

#malewishlist stop believing in dictionaries and create my own definitions instead. And change them whenever I want to. — Peter de Kock (@peterdekock) November 7, 2011

#malewishlist To feel without having words for what I feel — Peter de Kock (@peterdekock) November 7, 2011

#malewishlist To accept that the process of becoming an emotional healthy man is sometimes crazymaking in this society — Peter de Kock (@peterdekock) November 8, 2011

#malewishlist “tired of being a bullet” video at bit.ly/u4NKvp via @ManKindJournal & @mankindproject — Rick Belden (@rickbelden) November 9, 2011

#malewishlistI just want the good men to start showing up for young males. I’m tired of hearing about the creepy ones! — Earl Hipp (@earlh) November 11, 2011

#malewishlist To see a brave, honest, articulate man like #JonRitchie (bit.ly/spFraA) get some of the attention a Charlie Sheen gets. — Rick Belden (@rickbelden) November 12, 2011

#malewishlist To live in a world where power is just another word for love in action – Peter de Kock (@peterdekock) November 13, 2011

#malewishlist To live in a world in which support for men & boys who’ve been abused means more than just words & candles. — Rick Belden (@rickbelden) November 14, 2011

#malewishlist to love myself enough to feel tired and take some rest instead of violating my boundaries for the sake of work, work, work — Peter de Kock (@peterdekock) November 16, 2011

#malewishlist To live in a world in which greed, avarice, venal stupidity, and amoral self-interest are punished rather than rewarded. — Rick Belden (@rickbelden) November 16, 2011

#malewishlist For every man to have the support he needs from other men. Far too many of us are still trying to go it alone. — Rick Belden (@rickbelden) November 18, 2011

Today is International Men’s Day. Overview & some great short vids from everyday men around the world at bit.ly/2HtyhD. #malewishlist
— Rick Belden (@rickbelden) November 19, 2011

#malewishlist To know I don’t have to do it all alone. — Rick Belden (@rickbelden) November 25, 2011

To have my own definition of success #malewishlist — Peter de Kock (@peterdekock) December 16, 2011

The English male stiff upper lip is a heavy burden. I wish all men would be softer with each other #malewishlist — Dapper Dan(@redfoxcountry) December 21, 2011

wouldn’t it be nice if men would reward/encourage sensitivity & empathy when they see it in other men #malewishlist — Judah Oudshoorn (@judahoudshoorn) December 21, 2011

my #malewishlist is that dads develop some healthy parenting habits this holiday season: bit.ly/uVjt6s — Judah Oudshoorn (@judahoudshoorn) December 21, 2011

#malewishlist To be able to cry without shame or fear when feeling sadness, grief, disappointment, weakness, or loss. — Rick Belden (@rickbelden) December 21, 2011

#malewishlist…that more guys speak out and break the silence thats not theirs to keep — Adult Male Survivors (@amsosa_uk) December 22, 2011

#malewishlist Not to be regarded as culpable or responsible for bad acts committed by other men or groups of men, now or in the past. — Rick Belden (@rickbelden) December 22, 2011

#malewishlist To live in a world in which men and boys who’ve been abused feel free to talk about it, and have the words to do so. – Rick Belden (@rickbelden) January 2, 2012

#malewishlist To be here/there for the male survivors yet to speak out and do mybest to help support them through the dark, to the light. — Adult Male Survivors (@amsosa_uk) January 3, 2012

#malewishlist To know I am seen, valued, and appreciated as a man not only for what I do, but for who I am. — Rick Belden (@rickbelden) January 3, 2012

#malewishlist To live in a world in which tenderness, compassion, and sensitivity are no longer regarded as primarily feminine qualities. — Rick Belden (@rickbelden) January 5, 2012

#malewishlist To see ample resources easily available for all #malesurvivors of sexual abuse. Any man or boy who needs help should have it. — Rick Belden (@rickbelden) January 6, 2012

#malewishlist To feel as comfortable with my sadness and grief as I do with my frustration and anger. — Rick Belden (@rickbelden) January 10, 2012

#malewishlist To know and trust that I can be strong and powerful without hurting others. — Rick Belden (@rickbelden) January 10, 2012

#malewishlist To remember that failure & rejection do not reduce or diminish me as a man, but are pathways into my own strength & wisdom. — Rick Belden (@rickbelden) January 10, 2012

#malewishlist To smile at a child in public or enjoy watching kids play in the park without being seen as some kind of threat or weirdo. — Rick Belden (@rickbelden) January 10, 2012

#malewishlist To know how to honor my sexual energy and be with it in productive ways when I don’t have a partner. — Rick Belden (@rickbelden) January 11, 2012

#malewishlist To help break down the real isolation that male survivors in prison feel. I support them weekly and hope more get help too — Adult Male Survivors (@amsosa_uk) January 12, 2012

#malewishlist I’m slowly breaking the silence in Prisons for male survivors and setting them free to live a life one day — Adult Male Survivors (@amsosa_uk) January 14, 2012

Today, @rickbelden and I are going to be Unapologetically Ourselves. #malewishlist #womeninvitedtoo — Michael Lang (@oaktreepc) January 28, 2012

One of the best (& easiest) ways we have to support one another as men is to offer our recognition of good words & good work. #malewishlist — Rick Belden (@rickbelden) January 28, 2012